Contributed by: Josh Bitel, CFP®
Being a child of an aging parent can often come with some unexpected responsibilities. As the people in our lives start to get older, an unfortunate reality is that they may need some help with managing their money. Whether making decisions on behalf of a parent, helping organize and consolidate accounts, making sure debts are paid on time, or sorting out an estate – this duty may bring forth some difficult decisions. Below are some ideas to hopefully help make this transition a bit easier.
Consider Establishing Power of Attorney
A power of attorney is a legal document that allows someone else to act on your behalf. This document is one of the "Big Four" estate planning documents that financial planners recommend everyone to consider. This document can and should only be granted when a parent is competent and able to make the decision. It does not mean that a power of attorney has complete control of their lives, but having one in place can help save time and money for family members who would otherwise have to go to court and be appointed if mom or dad should become incapacitated.
Zoom Out and Think "Big Picture"
Seemingly small things that come easy to younger generations may not be commonplace with our parents. Simply switching bills to auto-pay or income to be directly deposited into a bank account can go a long way toward simplifying and organizing monthly cash flow for mom or dad. Aging parents likely also have different time horizons, goals, and liquidity needs than their children. These differences must be taken into consideration when beginning to manage a parent's assets – more stable, income-producing investments often make more financial sense than stocks for aging folks, for example.
Leverage Professionals
Mom and/or dad may work with a financial planner or CPA who has known them for long enough to help make sense of their situation. It is important to understand that handing over the reins of managing the financial household can be a stressful transition for parents; leveraging the individuals in their lives who they have trusted to oversee these matters in the past can help you piece together this puzzle. If mom/dad doesn't have a trusted advisor in their corner, consider using yours or hiring one to help. If your parents do not already have an estate plan in place (see the "big four" linked above), consider partnering with an estate planning attorney to draft these documents. This will allow mom and dad to make sure they are transferring their assets to exactly who they want, when they want, and how they want. Otherwise, the state will choose their estate plan for them!
Be Aware of Emotions
Not only can needing children to help manage the household finances be a stressful time for parents, but siblings can also have a hard time coming to grips with seeing their parent's age. When having these conversations with mom, dad, brother, or sister – consider leaning on the idea that this doesn't mean they are incapable of managing their own affairs, but simply that you want to help take the burden off so they can enjoy their later years and not worry about trivial matters like paying bills and managing income.
There is no sugarcoating these kinds of conversations with family. Proud, aging parents will want to be independent as long as possible, and siblings may not want to impose on mom and dad's financial matters. Leading with the right approach and a careful plan of action can help alleviate some of these stressors and help simplify life for all involved. If you are considering having these difficult discussions and are interested in guidance, I encourage you to contact a trusted advisor such as a Certified Financial Planner™.
Josh Bitel, CFP® is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ professional at Center for Financial Planning, Inc.® He conducts financial planning analysis for clients and has a special interest in retirement income analysis.
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